Writer, Podcaster and Inspirational Speaker CJ Johnson (aka CJ Moneyway )vulnerably shares his journey, challenges and trumps, through his many creative pursuits, but it wasn’t always that way for him. 

In this open-hearted conversation, CJ shares how he receives his inspiration, how he found the confidence to speak on big stages, the importance of sharing stories, inspiring others, and cultivating a personal relationship with a higher power. 

While CJ himself is Bible faith based, what he has learned and his message can speak to us all, inspiring you to find that inspiration and confidence within to follow your intuition too! His next pursuit is launching his upcoming second podcast ("Thoughtful Dialog with CJ")  CJ wants the new podcast to be a platform for men to open up, be vulnerable, and work on their personal growth and emotional expression (but all are welcome).

Show Notes:

BIO: CJ Johnson, The C.J Moneyway Show, Writer, Producer, Host, Speaker

CJ Moneyway's journey began with a deep love for the s”Stories Behind The Success” and an entrepreneurial spirit that saw opportunities where others saw challenges. His dedication to interviewing top notch talent and creating high-quality productions has attracted a diverse roster of collaborators, establishing the company as a powerhouse in the podcast entertainment world. 

At his core, CJ embodies values of respect, integrity, and truthfulness, ensuring that every interaction and creation is an enriching experience. Whether in his work as an entrepreneur, content creator, podcaster, public speaker or author, his commitment to excellence is evident. Driven by a passion to connect, inspire, and transform, CJ is not just a voice in the crowd but a beacon of innovative thought and heartfelt expression in the realms of public speaking and writing.

With an eye on the future, CJ Moneyway continues to innovate, inspire, and lead CJ Moneyway Entertainment LLC to new heights, cementing his legacy as a trailblazer in the ever-evolving landscape of entertainment.

His book: ‘Both Eyes Open and Both Eyes Shut," available on Amazon.

website: https://cj-moneyway-entertainment.ueniweb.com

Podcast: https://cj-moneyway-entertainment.ueniweb.com/my-podcast

The CJ Moneyway Show:  Meaningful Conversations with diverse individuals, across many fields and professions, about their journeys

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@themoneywayshow8493

New Book: The Issues of Life

New Podcast: Thoughtful Dialogue with CJ

Episode transcript:

hey, beautiful soul, welcome to spirit speakeasy. I'm Joy Giovanni, joyful medium. I'm a working psychic medium, energy healer and spiritual gifts mentor. This podcast is like a seat at the table in a secret club, but with mediums, mystics and the spiritual luminaries of our time. So come behind the velvet ropes with me and see inside my world as I chat insider style with profoundly gifted souls, we go deep, share juicy stories, laugh a lot, and it wouldn't be a speakeasy without great insider secrets and tips. You might even learn that you have some gifts of your own. So step inside the spirit speakeasy. Hey, beautiful soul. I am excited to share this episode with you. I met this gentleman through podcast exchange, essentially a place called pod match, and I was a guest on his show, and I really loved not only chatting with him, but I love the perspective that he comes from. He's really open hearted. He is more Bible based in himself and in his own work, but I feel like the inspiration and wisdom that he has to share and has to offer, whether through his books or his podcast or his second podcast that he's releasing, are really applicable to everyone. And we don't talk about the religion of it all, but we really talk more about inspiration and intuition and how that comes in for him as a man in this work. And I, I'm excited to share also this new podcast that he's going to be launching, because it is more geared towards and available for men. It's not that women aren't, you know, welcome, of course, they are, but this is really a space for men to get in touch with their emotions and the things going on in their lives and do their personal development and expand. So I'm excited to just share not only his perspective, but his wisdom and all about his next podcast that He's launching. Whether you identify as a male yourself, or you have a male in your life that you love, you're gonna really like this episode. So without further ado, let's meet CJ. Hey, beautiful soul, welcome back, or welcome in for another episode of spirit speakeasy. I'm so excited today to introduce our guest, CJ Johnson. He goes by the name of his podcast, CJ moneyway. CJ moneyway's journey began with a deep love for sharing stories behind the success and as an entrepreneurial spirit, he saw that there was an opportunity to share others challenges. His dedication to interviewing top notch talent and creating high quality Productions has attracted a diverse roster of collaborators, establishing the company as a powerhouse in the podcast and entertainment world. At his core, CJ embodies the values of respect, integrity, truthfulness, ensuring that every interaction and creation is an enriching experience, whether in his work as an entrepreneur, a content creator, a podcaster, a public speaker or an author, his commitment to excellence is evident driven by a passion to connect, inspire and transform. CJ is not just a voice in the crowd, but a beacon of innovative thought and heartfelt expression in the realms of public speaking and writing. Welcome to the podcast. CJ moneyway, how are you today, sir.
Hey. How you doing? Joy. Thank you for having me all.
I am so happy to have you, and so excited to talk about all of the wonderful things that you're up to.
Oh so
well, I was lucky enough to be a guest on your podcast, CJ moneyway, and I would love to share a little bit about your show and the pivot that you've made. I love this idea, this mission of yours, of bringing people's stories, kind of the the regular person, the everyday person, all of us, you know, we're all equal souls here on this planet and and we all have a story to tell. Will you talk a little bit about what inspired you to start the show originally, and then how you came to this deep understanding of what the show is today,
starting originally, I think back in like 2013 or something like that. That's when I had been as we talked earlier, had been practicing or honing my skills for it. I wasn't ready, but I was just out there buying a microphone. I learned how to do Power Director, to do videos and things of that nature. And so I tried to actually start with a group of friends, the podcast. We had a meeting, you know, we was going to do this and that. But then, when it come down to the money, you. People kind of shy away. And so one of my friends pulled my coattail and he said, Hey, see, he say a lot of times, this your baby. And so a lot of times when you see certain things or you have a certain vision, everybody's not with the same vision that or have the same vision that you have. And so that kind of, like propelled me, and as we talk about the spirit and things of that nature, and sometimes some things, it's not for everybody, as you're trying to bring them into your fold and trying to do what what's been shown to you. And so last year, October 6, I launched my first episode, that was my birthday. That was a birthday present to myself, and I just said, You know what? I'm just gonna go ahead and do it, if it's just me by myself, you know? Because it's my thing, it's something I want to do. I want to inspire people. And so I started off. I wanted to do a scripture based I wanted to aim towards me, and that was my focus, because I see a lot of women podcasts like yourself, and you know, as I look out there in the world, and they got a lot of women movement that's going on. And so as I was looking, I said, it's not a lot of things for men, especially men the everyday man, the everyday man, the everyday person that's going out there doing so I wanted to create a platform for us and so, but I didn't want to exclude women, because I did. I have, I had a young lady, she say, well, CJ, all you got is men on your show. I say, You know what? So I branched it open, you know, to have women on that because I wanted to be diverse with it. And women bring a lot of value, you know, say, as well. And so getting on pod match, after meeting Alex and getting on pod match, it actually changed the whole dynamics, the direction that I was going in, and it's just been, it's been moving. It's been great ever since, to the point now, this year, I've actually people that that email me or hit me up on pod match. Now I have to tell them that I'm booked for the remainder of the year that I, you know, I won't be able to to collaborate no more until the beginning of next year. So that's, that's, that's a great feeling.
I love that you took that inspiration? Because the truth is, so many of us have a project we want to do, or something we want to learn, or, you know, even if it's something that we usually keep private, like intuition or spirituality, but it's not for everybody, necessarily, and sometimes out of our, you know, insecurity or wanting to stay a little bit in our comfort zone. We want to bring along some friends. We want to, like, have some partner come with us. But to your point, it's, it's sometimes it has to be an individual journey, and we can't let it hold us back that okay, this is outside my comfort zone. This is, I'm going to step out here alone, and look now you're making something really amazing.
I appreciate it. I appreciate it. And so, yeah, like you say, you know, a lot of times when you when you look at things, and you know, as we was talking about earlier, that I allude to too, when he shows you something that don't mean that he shows everybody else what he showed you. And so sometimes you want people to get excited about what you have seen, but they haven't seen it. And so you become a little disturbed or look perturbed, because they don't get the same joy and the same reaction and same feeling that you got from it. But then I had, as I, you know, was going through this thing and the thing of life, I had to realize that it's hard for people to get excited for something that hadn't actually been shown to them. You know, as Oh,
true. Like not everyone, we're all we all receive inspiration. We all receive those divine nudges to to do something, whether it's making a painting or making a podcast or making a you know, making a meal, whatever it is. And maybe others aren't cued in on your vision, because it's your vision for the qualities of your soul that you can express and these unique set of gifts that you as the soul, CJ, bring in this lifetime. And I think it's so funny to your point that, like, how often is it that when we create something, we want all of our people to be excited and and it's usually people that are strangers to us, that are inspired by the work, and people that are our own, you know exactly, friends and family, that people always joke and say, like, Oh, do you do like, readings for your kids, or do you coach your kids? And I'm like, they want to hear what
I have to say. I know the feeling, you know, to that point, even my wife, you know, it's so, like, I speak a lot at church, right? So, you know, I do speeches at church and things of that nature, and I don't, I. Don't share with her what I'm, you know, what I'm about to do, whatever she find out when everybody else find out, you know, when I get up there, and even with my podcast or my book, she gives me my space to do what I'm doing. She knows I'm doing something, but she don't really, you know, get into it like, you know, I like, I like, now I talk to her about certain things, like, I'd be like, oh, man, I talked to this lady named Joy today, and man, she made me start thinking about something, you know, like, I do things like that as it start progressing. But as you said, like people that, and I learned that from writing my my first book, that people that you want or that you feel would be happy for you and that will support you. They're mainly the ones that that don't, and it kind of gets discouraging to the point where sometimes it makes you want to give up, like, Man, if I can't encourage the people that I know, or if I can't encourage the people who you know, saying who we supposed to love each other. Then how can I, you know, who can I encourage, but as we know, and as I've been going through this, being, being in this, in this arena, as we know, we see analytics, and so we see that it's touching people over there and in Bangladesh, or it's touching people over there in Australia, or people from Florida, people from San Diego or people from New York, they listening to your podcast. So it's like, well, people at home may not be listening to it, but somebody listening. So that gives you encouragement. And then sometimes too people listen, and they and, you know, like, how we put posts out on Facebook and things of that nature. They may not like it, or they may not give a comment, but they watching, because if you see them out in public, they'll let you know. Like, oh joy. I've been watching your podcast. It's great. Or I've seen your program is great. And you like, wow, I didn't even though that you was really looking at it. So, you know, so, but when you do hear things like that from your peers, because your peers is the hardest people to try to impress, because they
hear us all the time, right? Yeah, talking about all kinds of and so for anyone out there who has any kind of project that you're working on, that's your inspiration, you know, don't be discouraged if your whole family isn't support and engagement is two different things, right? They love you and say, like, good for you, but doesn't mean they're gonna keep on your path. Doesn't mean, yeah, listen, I have a question that I wasn't planning to ask, but something you said peaked it now, you know, because we've already chatted, that I believe that the words like God and spirit and divine and universe are kind of all interchangeable. However, someone understands a higher power of their understanding. You said, for you, it's you presenting and speaking and inspiring in church, I'm so curious about your process for receiving that inspiration, whether it's for like, a book you want to write or a talk you want to give, is it a process of you going into prayer and meditation? Is there some like, how? How does that inspiration move through you? And how do you put those thoughts together?
You know,
when you first start off in something like, first is the honor, you know, when, when your pastor, or, you know, somebody else from the church elder, they want to put you on a program to speak, and so, you know, then, when it over time, like, okay, like every pastor's anniversary, a church anniversary, you want to you one of the main people that they want to come up there and give encouraging words or, you know, say something about, you know, how did the, how did, how did this ministry help you move forward? And so the process, it used to be that, you know, I used to write everything down, and then I go up there and I read it off of my phone or whatnot. But as time go on, it's like, I put it like this, joy coming up, growing up, my mother took me to church. And I know it's a word that say that when I was a child, you know, Train up a child in the way that they should go. When they get older, they want to depart from it. And so when I got to a certain age, I stopped going to church. But I was, that was the foundation that was built in me. But I stopped going. And so, you know, I went through all type of things in life, but then I got back into it. And so it was a season. There was a season where I just cut off everything. People was just walking away from me. I didn't even have to lose friends. They were just walking away from me. I, you know, you just find yourself by yourself at times. And so during this, during this time period, I read a lot. And so me reading a lot, I began having an intimate relationship with, as you say, we caught with God. I, you know, that was my intro. Relationship. And so I began filling myself up with with Word. And so now, as I do speeches and things, it just comes naturally, like, like, okay, here somebody come and say, well, CJ, this is the topic, whatever, whatever. Okay, I look at it. I'll read it, and then, boom, it is just coming. I don't even worry about it. I could be done with it in a matter of minutes, and now I have to read it off the phone. I'll have to read it off the piece of paper, because it comes from the heart, you know. And that's just like even with our podcast, the more and more that you do things, the more and more you feel comfortable. And, you know, saying feel better in your skin doing stuff. And so that's the same way, going up there, speaking in church, functioning. I mean, it's the same way
well, and I love the way that you said that it's a relationship, because it's kind of one of my continual things, that I am soapbox preaching on myself, that we think especially in more the spiritual work, the work of intuition. And people will say, like, open my third eye or whatever. And we're so conditioned to think it's a light switch, it's a light switch that's going to come on. And you know, if it's Bible based, for example, the voice of God is going to magically talk to you, and your Bible is going to open and give you the perfect scripture. It's not it's a relationship. It's a US showing up every day in in prayer or meditation or contemplation or or reading, or whatever it is for the individual and how they feel that expression. But it's exactly how intuition works through that relationship that we're building on this consistent, you know, kind of everyday, mundane basis, that then when we need it, it's there for for us to be inspired, to tap into, so to speak to, to hear a question or a problem in our life or a situation or a talk that someone wants us to give, and then all of a sudden, okay, I'm a little bit inspired, and I have this thing that I just Know is a direction to move in, rather than just okay, I'm never in my practice, and then all of a sudden I have a question, and now I feel alone and I can't find the information. Yeah, it's, it's such a beautiful way that you highlighted about the relationship, the relationship of it, it's a relationship,
yeah. I mean, without the relationship, there's no foundation. I mean, it's just like a relationship with a spouse, you know, we got to have a foundation. It has to be intimacy. And so at the same time, when you speaking of a relationship, it has to be trust. And so without trust, what are we building on? You know what I'm saying? So that's the same way with the relationship with God, or, you know, with the universe. I have it like you say you want to put it if I don't trust the process, and then, so where's my relationship? And so I have to, you know, build a relationship, so I can know what the requirements are, so I can know what, what was, you know, saying, Why, why I'm here, or why am I doing this? Or why did I have to go down this road? Or why did this happen? And then, as you have relationship, you'll start seeing that sometimes you have to go through some trials and tribulations to get to where you're going. You know, I never forget I could, I can go where these guys had to go through the final fiery furnace. Like, wow, that was real trust, right there. You know, they had to go through the fire and but because they believed in what they believed in. And so that's one of the aspects that I get to, that if you believe in what you believe in, then you gotta trust the process that everything is going to be, you know, everything is going to be fine, and the only way to do that is to have a personal relationship with with God, with your spouse, with your children. They have to be able to trust you
well. And in this work, kind of the way we often say it is, all things are working together for our highest and greatest good. It's just where our focus is pointed. And the other thing is, you're saying you you now receive this inspiration for what you are to talk about, or what you want to speak on or share or in the podcast, the direction you want it to go. But I know we just this fresh in my mind. We just talked about a little bit on your show, but it's this feeling of then you have to give your free will contribution. It's not like it's going to show up on your doorway in a Amazon package full successful podcast. Here you go, sir. No, you have to put your energy, your contribution, your agreement. You have to do the steps and and now you've used that inspiration and taken those steps. And not only are you creating a second podcast, but you also are about ready to publish your next book, yeah, yeah, and that's that's not something that's just delivered to you complete. You have to do the work and the process for that.
Yeah. I mean, as we was talking earlier, um, once you begin doing things. Things You have, it's like other things just start coming up, especially when, like the Create, when you're in the creative mindset, and as you probably can allude to, that a lot of times like, wow, okay, I got this idea, and I got this idea, or this idea, and I was listening to a guy say, he said, a lot of times when you have different ideas and different things, you gotta have pockets to be able to put them in. Because I can have an ideal I can make, maybe working on a project over here, and so I have an idea, and I try to fit that idea into that project, but it don't fit in that project. But because I don't have my pocket, any other pockets, but my other ideas are imma fit it in there. But as long as I got pockets, I can say, well, you know what this idea go with this, or that goes with that? And so that, once I heard that, that's what I try to keep my mind frame on. And then I did an interview with a young lady, and I asked her a question, and one thing she told me, she said, Let the main thing be the main thing. Like you may have a lot of other things going on, but let the main thing be the main thing at that point. Don't forget about the other things, but work on what you're working on at that time, and then just keep the other things you know saying in line. And so that's something that I try to do, as you may do as well. I know I do. I try to delegate certain things. Now, you know, as Alex say, automate, delegate and eliminate certain things. And so that's what I try.
I'm so curious about, I want to talk about both of these things, but which came first, the inspiration for this new podcast you're going to be launching, or this next book that's coming out, all
the next great, all the next books, for sure, I've been that book. It's been, it got birth probably 2018 2018 I just came up with the title, I was trying to do one of them go. It wasn't a Go Fund Me, but it was like a campaign thing. So I went through the classes and everything because I wanted to write a book, but I wanted to have, I wanted to get, you know, monitor money behind it. So I built this campaign, and I was doing that, and so I would say the book came in 2018 but it's just been on the back burner, just like when I wrote, I said, my book, both eyes open and both eyes shut was published in 2015
I actually start writing that book in 2000
Yeah. So it took 15 years for it to get published. And so sometimes you sit on things, sometimes you hold things. And what I'm realizing now joy is that a lot of times you may have an idea about something, or you may want to pursue something at this moment, but it's not the time for
it. We're still living the book. We're still living, yeah, the stories,
exactly, and the way that the book is coming on, I'm actually putting excerpts out on Facebook right now, putting on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I have them coming out at five o'clock to give people a little feel of it. And I'm really, really liking this new book. I'm really so
this next book is called the issues of life. Will you tell us just a little taste of what it's about and and your inspiration behind it?
Uh, well, it's going to, uh, it's based around the pastor, uh, Jeremiah Langston, okay. And so he has a congregation, a community, where he feels as though people are fading away from the faith. And so as a prodigy child who God had called at an early age, he feel like it's his time to impart in the community. And so he's taking his toe. So so he's taken on a challenge to build this community up in that faith. And so it's based off a scripture where it talks about the sword that's so and so he breaking this scripture down to every individual that comes to him in his life. And it's changing. It's changing the directory of the projectory of what a life was going and then it shows, in the end what a life ends up at. And so I have like, six chapters done already, and I'm really feeling
so it's a fiction book or a non fiction book,
it's a fiction book, yeah, it's a non fiction book. That's non fiction? Well, fiction is fiction, but it's touching on real life situations,
and what's the scripture that is? Is being kind of cultivated and fed off in the in the book, sure that you're talking about the
parents, Matthew, I want to say Matthew 13, the sword of so what talks. About the seeds being planted, and how some go to the wayside, some gone stormy, thorny ground, and some produce 100 mean, 3060, and 100 fold. So that's, that's what's kind of based around.
The reason I'm so excited about this too is I feel like because it's, it's written as more of a fictional story, and you're just using this teaching in it really, even if someone doesn't identify with the Christian Bible, maybe they're Jewish, maybe they're Muslim, maybe they're anything else, they still can read this book and and receive the lesson and get something from it that applies to their own life, their own business, things that they're going through, yeah,
because in one in one aspect of it is a couple, and the husband cheated, and so now they're, you know, at a crossroads, yeah, and they trying to reconcile their relationship, but they don't know how, you know the husband know that he messed up, and the wife is kind of reluctant to, you know, trust him again. But as they go through, as they come to the church and and the pastor began talking to him, and he's showing them different aspects of the tree of life and what this represents and what this represent, and it began bringing a bond to them. And so like you say a lot of times, we can see ourselves in certain situations where, like, even if you don't really know the scripture or understand the Scripture, you can see where you know what. I had this challenge in my life, or I'm facing this challenge in my life right now, and so now it can be like a guide, like you can get through whatever you're going through, if you're willing to put in the work
well. And it's it is kind of one of the magical things about this human experience is that we really can, even if our life circumstances are different, or our beliefs are different, whatever it might be, we can see ourselves in other people's stories and their emotions and in the things that happen to them, which is, I think you're also drawing from your own current podcast, the CJ moneyway show, because you're sharing people's stories. So does that do those two blend together for you? Somehow
you draw from one for the other,
actually,
maybe in a sense, but not really, because in this is it's actually like, like, okay, like, man, you did a podcast. I want to hear your story. But we're not talking strictly spiritual, you know, references or this, and that something might come up here and there, but it's basically, I'm listening to to the things that you went through, listening to your program, and listening about, you know, your book, and the things that you're doing, and so like it correlates, but, but in the book is it's mainly scriptorial and just issues of life that we act well, yeah, yeah. I guess you can say that issues of life that we actually face, you know, just just go through everyday life. So yeah, I guess you're right, Joe. I didn't think about it like that until you just brought it to my point. It does kind of correlate with each other, because that's part of the CJ moneyway show. Yeah, issues of life. You just
got to talk about, does the issues of life drop? When's the release date?
I can't give you the release date right now, or the end of the year. Yeah, I'm looking at the I'm looking at I'm looking at the end of the year, but if not the end of the year, I'm looking at early 2025, and we'll definitely
for everyone, have all the links in the show notes, so you can, whenever you're listening to this, click those links and find the book and find all about CJ. Now this book is something you've got in the works, and you're pouring your heart and soul into. And at the same time, you're now inspired to start a second podcast, which is going to be called thoughtful dialog with CJ. Will you share a little bit about your inspiration and what this is going to be
well, as I told you before, when I first started the CJ moneyway show, I really wanted to aim for me, and I wanted, I wanted something for men that we can relate on, that we can talk about, and some of the, some of the issues of life that we're facing, that we're going through, that people not really talking about, because we can be forgotten, you know, in a sense, with, with a lot not, not, not just taking anything away from women. But with a lot of the women movements that we have going on right now, a lot of times we can be overshadowed. And so even as even as a father I had, I got a subject line that's coming the unseen covering, you know, of the family. Sometimes, you know, we get to the where the man is the is the head of the house, you know, either the head and not the tail above or not beneath. But a lot of times, we can be forgotten by our children. Sometimes we can be forgotten by our wives and taken for granted. And that's why a lot of things may go to the wayside. I think a lot of men today are stranded away from that type of responsibility, because we're not taking accountability. And so when we're not taking accountability for our actions in life, that that destroys what we were talking about earlier, the trust. That destroys the foundation of the relationship. Or we could've went into the relationship with a crack Foundation. And so therefore that's why we was never able to build because I came into the relationship line. And so these are things that I feel as though, not only men need to hear, but women as well, because women are the ones that's being subject to what the men are doing. And so as we're trying to progress, we can't progress because there's issues that that man hasn't faced in his life. And so there's things on that nature. I have a lot of topics that I want to talk about on that. And so that's my niche. And you know, I couldn't find my niche without doing the CJ moneyway show you. Now, you gotta find your niche, your avatar. And so that's my niche. I'm coming straight at me. And so put on your 3d glasses, man, because I'm coming straight at you. Well, I
think it's, it's so powerful and such an amazing opportunity that you're stepping into. Because, I mean, if we look at whether it's, and this is a generalization, it's not true about all men, but I feel like it's the greater percentage, either culturally or historically or in the family of origin, in the US certainly, and I know it's true in other countries, men have historically been kind of conditioned to be strong, not show emotions. I feel it and hear it a lot in my readings with gentlemen of older generations who are in the spirit world that will come back and kind of apologize and say I didn't realize my words meant, you know, needed to be different for you, I didn't realize that I didn't express love in the ways I could have. There's so many layers of valuable things, and men are such an equal and important part of our society. We love you guys, we and I'm so happy you're creating this safe space to share information, and for people to even, even, if they're not going to write you back a letter, for example, if they're hearing that information, it's it's going to roll over them. They're going to process it. They're going to be able to look at even, even just a little bit of, how does this apply to my own life? How am I showing up? And it's, I think it's so desperately needed for male identifying people,
yeah. I mean, one of my, one of my main focus, is on, on the because, as you say, we, we are viable, regardless of what people, what what society say, and how they're trying to, you know, the label that they're trying to put, uh, put on us, and how they trying to exercise out. I mean, like, okay, Mother's Day, you go on Mother's Day, you being a mother, notice you can't go to no restaurant without having a reservation on Mother's Day because it's packed out this and that Father's Day, you go anywhere you want to. And it's certain things that as men, you have to get over, you know, and take it for what it is. And I think a lot of us get in our feelings sometimes and our emotions, and we're just not, you know, we're not built to be emotional, but a lot of times, men are being more emotional than women nowadays, and that's not a good thing, you know, for society to come about, because what am I teaching my young son? What am I like say, it goes from generations that if I'm, you know, if I'm portraying my life like this, then what, what are they seeing? Because as kids, they they're watching you. They're watching everything you do. If I'm a drug dealer, if I'm a drug dealer out there on the streets and I'm selling drugs and I'm sagging my pants or, you know, I'm toting guns around. What am I teaching my child? That's exactly what you know they're going to come up to be, because this is what they're seeing, and this is, you know, what they think that a man and think that what life is supposed to be. And so, you know, it's just certain things that, you know, we just gotta change the aspect of how certain people would view us and how we view ourselves.
Well, it's so true, because it's, I always go back to mediumship with it for me, and it's like I was just telling you earlier. It's, it's this spectrum of human emotions. And every soul that's in a body, every person has this spectrum of human emotions, no matter the gender or the life experience or the so while men might be conditioned a little bit more, like where I'm from, in Boston, I'll speak for myself, like anger is an acceptable emotion for men, but not you don't see a man saying that really hurt my feelings, maybe these days. But you know what I mean? It's, it's, it's not because men don't have that spectrum of emotions. They do. It's just they need to learn how to process and need a place to, you know, grow and expand in that way that's not judgmental, that's not, you know, trying to tell someone who to be or who to not be, or how to show up. It's and and when any man can have access to that spectrum of emotion within them and be able to articulate, you know, and there's so many amazing male parents out there now that can articulate to their child, for example, you know, I know I reacted this way. That was wrong. Here's how I feel. How do you feel, you know, and just have these more evolved conversations of to your point, like, who we want these next generation of of children to be able to be in this world.
Yeah, yeah. I mean, because at the end of the day, joy, like I may be doing something right now, trying to set a foundation for my children, or, you know, just based on my life, but then at the end of the day, it may be that it wasn't planned for me to see this, or that it may be planned for generations that I would never see. It may be planned for something like my children's children, children, children that I probably won't even see. And so if he has a plan for for them later on down the line, and so therefore, at some point, we have to be able to do our part and try to smooth that that level feel out, so that they can impart the knowledge in their children, and so that they can pass it down from generation to generation. Because it can be the eighth or ninth generation that that child is called. But if I'm just, you know, saying, if I'm not teaching them the right things or guide them in the right direction or in the right way, then when it does come to them, they going to miss the blessing because it wasn't taught to them. Because we talk about generational curses, and at some point somebody gotta break it. I don't care what my great, great granddaddy did, and granddaddy, at some point you got the knowledge, you got the wisdom and the understanding you got, you know, he called you. And so now it's time to break whatever's been been cursed. So it's time to break that. And so that's something that I just want to put on people's mind
well. And I love that you're starting with you right? Because all we all we have to control is not even the right word, but we're just all in charge of ourselves. We can't tell anyone else. So I love this idea of starting with you, with your personal development, with your what you want to share, and your emotional growth, and sharing that you know now with others, and that for me, the way I've been able to see it in my work's been really profound, because what that does then, when you have this evolved perspective, or this ability to to understand your emotions more deeply, it helps us look at those other generations and find peace and find acceptance that you know what my grandpa was doing the best that he could. And it might, might not have looked the way I feel like it should looked or I needed it to look, but I can have peace knowing, you know, he did love me, and he was doing his best, and it's a different time. So it's in that way, I think not only can we find deeper understanding and deeper connection and community, but we can find some degree of peace with things that have happened before?
Yeah, yeah. I mean, like you said earlier, we had this man, had this exterior, like, I didn't know how to give my emotions, or I didn't know how to tell you that I love you. I mean, you knew that I loved you, but I didn't say it, you know, like, now I got a 13 year old son. That's my I call him my my baby boy, because he's my youngest. And, you know, it's just certain things that having multiple kids that along the way, I've learned more about parenting, you know, and and how to show a different type of love, a different type of emotion. So we have a thing where we clap hands, we we snap head, and then we'll give a hug, you know. And then I've noticed that even that time, because, you know, kids that age, they kind but, but because we have created that, and it don't matter even who around or, you know, we at a basketball game, or, you know, we out, and we do our little handshake, and he'll even come in for the hug like, that's what he's looking for, you know, because that's what he's become accustomed to. And so, as you said earlier, back in the day, I don't think, like even with my father, as much as I love my father and we was best, you know, we had became best friends when I became older. But even back then, it wasn't that type of love and affection, you know, where you give a hug and you kiss him on the cheek and yeah, you know, you tell him, I love you. So we're living in a different time, and we living in a different realm, where these young kids, they need to know that, you know, they're loved not only by their mothers, but they're loved by their fathers too. We know mama. We know mama love you. And so I think the only way that. Uh, that the kids that we can men can get the kids to understand that we love them, is to be present, yeah. And I know so also, well, of not being present because I had kids on the outside. I had kids before I got married, and so I know the difference between raising the kid from the inside and raising the kid from the outside, and it's totally different, yeah,
and it's, I mean, that's a beautiful part of your story that you're able to share and able to grow from yourself. And I think I mean to your point, not only giving that permission for affection and for love and for expression in that way, but also it's that permission to then take accountability and say, You know what, like maybe with those older kids? For me, it's my kids are older. They're in their 20s. And I'll say, you know, hey, I was 20 when I had you, and I was doing the best I could. I'm sorry. I'm sorry you needed this and I didn't do that for you, and I love you, and it's so healing. And I think that's the direction that we're hopefully moving, collectively for these younger generations, is even just how healing is that to just say, Hey, man, I didn't know that you needed that. I'm sorry. I love you. Give me a hug. You know it's yeah, it's as easy as that, and it doesn't need to be that, that old way, that posturing of, well, I'm the parent and I'm right and you're wrong, and because that just creates distance and exclusion. So it's, it's, it's really incredible, and I love that you're creating this place for I mean, women are welcome to to listen, but, but primarily, it's a space for men.
Yeah, it's a space. It's a special man. I mean, like, like, say, when I started doing the entrepreneurship, and, you know, the things of that nature, for the money way show, and, you know, I'm like, oh, okay, I'm liking this. I'm feeling it okay. This the way that it's going. And then one day, as I was, you know, just sit back and, you say, meditating and just thinking, it hit me, okay. Now get back to what you was originally doing, or what you was originally but because sometimes we can get off course, like, we got a course, and they say, Okay, go okay, this the path that you supposed to go down. Like, okay, I'm going down that path, and then you go off that path like, okay, you can find some fruit over there. It's all good, but now I need you to get back, because now what the money way show has done, it has built me a platform for this new show. And so it was meant for me to go off course. Okay, so now get back to where you were at. And so that's what I'm sticking to, and that's what I want to
do. And I love, I love that illustration of it, because I think sometimes our human nature is to think that inspiration, or that still small voice is going to be this big, powerful light in the sky to direct us. And it's not, it's just as simple as you're doing your work over here, focusing. And it's like, hey, remember that other thing that you are going to do? Like, do that again. It's small, it's simple. And then you say, oh, yeah, you know what? I am going to do that, and it's your action that then can create the thing. So well, tell us when this new show releases.
I'm going to release the trailer, December 31 2024
and will you have that all linked in your website that we're going to look in the show notes?
Yes, I should be starting to work on certain things. I actually, I said I was going to, I probably been starting this month. But you get so so bagged up on certain things. You know, time, sometimes you'll have enough time in the day to do things, but I'm finished start focusing on that. I will have the trailer ready in December. So probably about time you get ready to put this out. I would definitely have the links and everything for that well,
and check the link in the show notes to CJs website, and make sure you check out this new podcast that's coming out, thoughtful dialog with CJ which we're so excited about. I know that you are a super busy man, and I'm so grateful to have had some of your time. I want to shift gears and launch into the spirit speed round so I can keep you on your time, because I know you've got places to be after this. This is a really fun and easy speed round of four questions. There's no rules about only giving one answer or how long you take to answer, but I'm hoping you'll find these questions interesting and fun. Were you sure one thing that really shocked you or was unexpected about your work as a podcaster?
The results that I got from New York, I was really shocked that I had so many listeners in New York. I was, you know, that that made me feel real good. I did. I didn't expect that.
Yeah, and you're in Indiana, just outside Chicago, right? Yes, that's really cool. Yeah, the reach is surprising sometimes, right? Yeah, this is a totally different type of question. If you got to spend one day in the spirit world on the other side. And and you got the full tour. You got to spend time with everyone you've ever known who's crossed over. And it's almost time to return to your life, and your guide tells you you have one hour left, and you can spend it with anyone who's on the other side. Who do you choose and why?
I would have to say my father. The reason I said, because my grandmother passed away too, but I will have to say, I will have to say my father. And because the unexpected, my father passed away at 64 and he went and, you know, the day that he died, me and my mother had just went up there to see him. We was talking, I had had back surgery, and we was talking, we was laughing, and two, three hours later, they called us and told us that he passed away, so that, you know, kind of hurt. So if it was anybody that I can go on the other side and see and spend my last, last time with, it will be here.
Wow. I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope you know that you you can talk to him from your heart, and he can hear everything you have to say left unsaid, even though we have careers and businesses and all these other things that we do, we have very human lives. What's one quirky thing about you that people might be surprised to learn?
One quirky thing about me,
surprised a lot, doesn't have to be a big thing
that
that I like to actually spend a lot of time by myself. I don't think people really know that I really like to spend time by myself because I'm so outgoing. I'm a very outgoing person, you know, I, I like to try to make people laugh, you know, joyous. And you know, me and my wife, we have a company, you know, we great host and, you know, things of that nature. So people see that part of me. But I really like being by myself a lot, because it gives me time to think, you know, time to create. So, yeah, I don't think people really get the full understanding of that. That means
you have a good relationship with yourself too. You could be yourself. Will you leave us with a pearl of wisdom? What's one piece of advice that you wish you had had earlier on in your journey?
I wish, as my father used to always say, if I knew then what I know now, my life would be totally different. And so when I say that, I mean, if I knew then what I knew now, I would have went to school, got me an education, went to college and battered myself in that realm, because things are not as hard at that time as we make it to be. Yeah, things get hard when you have to get out here, do things on your own, pay your own bills, and get your own kind and so that's one of the things that I would leave for the young folks, that if you stand at home with your mother, stand at home with your mother and father, life is good. You know you don't pay no bills, you don't have no responsibility but to clean up your room or sometimes wash the dishes and take out the garbage, that's nothing. You can go to school, get your education, and have a great life, whether you try to play sports or whether you know you want to be an engineer, you can do anything that you want to do in life, as long as you put your mind to it. Don't let your gifts and your talents be taken away from you, or Don't bury your gifts and talents. Use them to what to your advantage and live life Great.
That's a beautiful piece of wisdom, and I think it's never too late to start either. Even if you're 80 years old and you have the something you want to learn, you still can, you still can learn it. Okay. Well, thank you for being here with us today. Thank you for sharing your light and make sure everyone who's listening to check out the CJ moneyway show and the new show when it comes out, thoughtful dialog with CJ, and pass it along to the men in your life that you would like to be more emotionally evolved. And the new book that's coming out, the issues of life, you are a mover and a shaker. Thank you so
much for being here with us today.
Thank you for having me joy. It's been a pleasure.
It's been a pleasure to talk with you as well.
Well, what did you think of that conversation? Pretty inspiring, right? And I love the way CJ was able to share how he receives his inspiration and his intuition and his guidance from the higher power of His understanding from within himself, to then be able to present, either on his podcast or through his books or through the talks that he gives. He is quite the renaissance man as far as all the things that he does and is involved in, and of course, he has. The podcast that I was on the CJ moneyway show, and then he has this new show coming out thoughtful dialog with CJ. I will link everything below through his website, and you can find him across all platforms at CJ moneyway. He's a really beautiful soul, and I'm so grateful to him for shining his light, not only with us today, but the work that he's doing in out there, in Indiana, in his own communities, and with male identifying communities, we need more and more and more people shining their light for anyone that they can touch. So I'm really grateful to CJ for all the work that he's doing in the world and for taking this time out of his busy schedule to share his light and shine with us. So I hope that you have liked this episode. I hope that you have seen through CJs illustration just how softly and easily and subtly that inspiration or intuition can come in when we have a relationship with with that inspiration. So check CJ out. Thank you for being here today and joining me and listening in. I always appreciate you. And if you are liking this show, I've seen some stats. I know CJ was talking about the stats, and a lot of people that are listening to the show are listening, but are not subscribed. So I would love it if you are enjoying spirit speakeasy, if you would on whatever platform you're listening, if you would just hit that subscribe button so you never miss an episode, and so I can have you never miss an episode. That's helpful for me. And if you feel like giving a rating or a review, I would love that as well. Big hugs. Lots of love. Bye for now. From inside spirit speakeasy, you.